That it was shameful to be fat and that men only find skinny women to be desirable because only skinny women are considered to be beautiful.Basically, to sum up my mothers message, there was to be no place for me in dating, love, marriage or happiness really if I were an overweight woman.I love talking about Robert and how he makes me happy, but this felt different. As I scrolled through my phone and found my favorite photo of Robert and me. Here’s the thing, according to society’s standards big girls aren’t supposed to have hot boyfriends.Rebecca continued to gush about Robert and me “Oh my God, you should have seen them at her best friend’s wedding this summer– they were the cutest couple on the dance floor…” I smiled and tried again to change the subject, “I dated a lot of guys before I met him though– have you girls ever tried online dating? In it, I am smiling at the camera and Robert is looking at me with a smile on his face and a twinkle in his eye. But somehow I ended up with a really attractive guy. It would simply be a ridiculous notion and careless of me.
So many, that it can be difficult to find exactly what you’re looking for.Shopping for plus size clothing in most retail stores is a less than enjoyable experience. You have to shop in the back of the store in the hidden, tucked away plus size department.And then you must deal with the salespeople who are not too friendly in many cases.In my forthcoming book “Date Smarter – The Savvy Singles Guide to Navigating the Dating Maze” I share with my readers some of the battles I had growing up and the impact it had on my dating life and self-esteem early on.As an overweight child my mother taught me year after year and one crash diet after another that fat equaled ugly.